PLACENTA ENCAPSULATION (raw method, using an oven)

Placenta encapsulation is quite simple, I spent hours digging through as many webpages to find out how it is done. I did not want to pay for someone to do something I could do myself, but I highly recommend doing so if you are squeamish or don't want to be involve in the process but want the pills.
Before starting I was a bit nervous, having never seen one up close before. After birth I looked over the placenta and its anatomy, making sure all the cotyledons were all there (any missing would be assumed retained and have to be removed to avoid infection and excessive bleeding).  Then I put it in the freezer until I was ready to encapsulate.

I found it all to be thoroughly enjoyable. Afterwards I felt complete :)

These are the steps I took to get my placenta into pills! I am rather computer illiterate when it comes to adding pictures and editing them, but I tried and that's what counts.
If you want to share, please share this entire post, not just the pictures.

 Step 1. Make sure the placenta is thoroughly washed, as I was doing the raw method (no steaming) I had to make extra sure it was clean. I bleached all surfaces prior to starting (chopping board, knife, sink and I wore gloves). Starting with a sterile environment is vital.

The first 2 pictures are to show the different sides of the placenta, I love the second one, my baby was in there :) It is quite red due to the blood still in there, as I washed it, the colour went pink.

I'm not 100% on what the blotches are, they weren't there prior to freezing it (there were small spots of blood in the cord) so I assume it is due to the blood being there and being frozen (correct me if I am wrong!)

The maternal side, as you can guess, is where it was attached to my uterus, the lumpy bits are the cotyledons. It is rather odd too look at, it reminded me of lungs. The fetal side is the side baby was in. The fetal side is smooth and veiny, and obviously that is where the cord inserts.

Step 2 is remove the cord and the membranes, leaving just the main part of the placenta.

Then slice it all up as thin as you can manage and arrange on the tray.

Step 3. put the oven on as low as you can manage, I think mine was about 60 degrees Celsius and I had the door open a tiny bit.
This was the longest part of the process. It took roughly 18 hours. For a very long time it looked done except for little pink spots as seen above.

When the placenta was nice and dry, you should be able to snap it not bend it.
Then you need to grind it up, not quite into a powder but close to.

I had a capsule machine, I got mine from Ebay and 00 size capsules (you can choose if you want smaller or larger, keeping in mind you do not want to have too much in one pill at a time due to the hormones). With it on the stand, you put half the capsule in the base, the other side of the capsule in the top. Fill the capsules with the ground up placenta and use the spreader card. Pack them a little and add a bit more (to make sure the capsules are decently filled, don't press too hard). Put the top on with the other halves of the capsules and press. This joins the capsules together without any mess.

Make sure you store it in a airtight container with one of the desiccant bags that comes with the capsule machine (if you get one in the complete package), I like to keep mine in the freezer so I don't have to worry about them going 'off'. They can be kept in the freezer indefinitely, some women like to keep them for menopause.

So there you have it! How I encapsulated my placenta :)
I did not use any herbs, it's best to not add anything.

Oh, one last pic, if you read this far then you may also find this as cool as I do.

During the process I discovered a cool little thing, the yolk sac! This little thing was between the amnion and the chorion, this is what nourished my baby before the placenta took over.


And that is it! the placenta encapsulation process, raw method using an oven as a dehydrator.

I hope I have been helpful if you choose to encapsulate your own placenta (or even for a friend ;))

Namaste

Surprise! I'm getting back into writing :D

It's been quite a while and I have neglected my blog, but now I plan to get back into things :)
Why suddenly start writing again?
I'm expecting baby #4!
Total surprise, we were avoiding but the universe had other plans.
I'm 15 weeks currently and it has been an incredibly stressful pregnancy so far.

When I was 7 weeks I told my gastroenterologist I was pregnant. I had a severe flare last year and had only been in remission (with a small amount of ulceration discovered in June literally days before I was meant to have conceived according to my ultrasound, that has been managed with an increase of my 6mp, I am symptom and inflammation free) as of December and wanted to know immediately how my treatment was going to change.
Fortunately for me, I can safely stay on my medication but the infusions will be stopped at 32 weeks so baby isn't as immune supressed as if I was to stop it later. Baby will still be immune supressed for 6 months so I will have to be extra cautious, as I am with myself.

You may be wondering, if I will be doing either the birth or the pregnancy unassisted again. The answer is no, not at this point in time, and definitely not the pregnancy, this is a time when I need a professional to anticipate and detect any abnormality.
This pregnancy is high risk due to my Crohn's disease.
With Crohn's disease your baby is at risk of low birth weight and premature birth. Also due to the type of medication I am on, I am at a significantly higher risk of infection.

While I have always been mildly flaring from the age of 17 and haven't had any issues (my daughter was lucky she was born at term and was just over the threshold for low birth weight, at the time we attributed that to my hyperemesis and struggle to gain weight, we now know my Crohn's was also a factor) after what we call a mega-flare, I have lost some faith in my body. I know my gut is scarred and may not absorb the nutrients necessary. I'm not taking any chances when things with my Crohn's has changed.
When I was 11 weeks I had the nuchal translucency ultrasound and related bloods because with 6mp defects can occur (there is not all that much research out there for me to say it's perfectly safe) but given how severe my Crohn's is, it is safer for me to be on medication than not. If I flare, I could lose my baby and my life. It's a fairly easy decision to make.
When I saw the OB he said the bloods (PAPP-A) level was a little low, not significant though but it means I will need another hormone test later on and monitor the growth of baby closely. Low PAPP-A levels can indicate a problem with the placenta function, but doesn't always indicate a problem at all, the placenta could just be a little on the smaller end of normal. I see the Dr. in a few weeks and I plan to get the specific numbers. Because I like to work with numbers. With autoimmune diseases a low PAPP-A level seems rather common, hence the risk of preterm birth and low birth weight, so I am very aware my baby may be small or born early.

I'm not 100% comfortable with the OB I met, the very first thing he mentioned to me after introduction was induction at 39 weeks after a cervical examination. For no other reason besides I give birth very quickly and might not make it to the hospital. I said I would not discuss induction until it became medically necessary but I'm sure it will be brought up again...
I will not hesitate to be induced if there is a problem with me or the baby/placenta, but I will not endure an induction and the risk of infection from people putting things in my vagina for the purposes of ensuring I'm in hospital when I give birth if everything is actually fine. Thankfully there are other OBs that work at the hospital I am getting my prenatal care at so I can get different opinions.

I have been assigned a one to one care midwife (group practice midwife), I have only spoken to her on the phone so I haven't made an opinion about her yet, I meet her in about a month. She does a lot of water births, so assuming I make it to term and don't decide last minute to stay home, I will be having a water birth.

I cannot safely have an unassisted pregnancy, as I said before, my baby will be monitored closely and have at least one growth ultrasound around 32 weeks. I am not sure at this point in time if I am comfortable with unassisted birth, it really depends on the health of my baby and myself. Crohn's does not stop me safely giving birth (or I would not have had R at home unassisted) but after last years flare, I'm not going to pretend things haven't changed.
I have been incredibly stressed because of the extra attention from the medical professionals I had not anticipated and the unexpected timing of the pregnancy itself, the most significant stress factor is the fear, the overwhelming fear that something could go wrong.

My estimated due date is the 15th of March, just a couple of weeks before my daughter's 6th birthday.

This probably way too long now so I will end this here. I'll share a belly pic progression next post and will write about the placenta encapsulation I did last year as promised, pictures included. I will also update more on D, J and R.

I am still nursing R, I am not weaning him unless I need to for medical reasons.
I look forward to sharing this journey, and if you have any questions I will answer as best as I can.

Namaste.

Crohn's Disease *May be triggering*

It's been a rather long time since I updated. A lot has happened.
Firstly, R has fitted in well with our family, I honestly believe it is easier going from 2 to 3 children than it is 1 to 2. It is like he has always been here.
R stared crawling at 5 months, standing at 8 months and is started walking at 10 months. 'Mama' was his first word and now he says 'mama baba' when he wants to nurse :)

But it has not been easy for me. I was aware I was high risk for developing PPD and I did not escape this time. Not for reasons related to parenting though. I have Crohn's disease and since May I was flaring severely and had 2 hospital admissions.
R was about 6 weeks old when I noticed my health declining, I (as is common with incurable diseases, especially in the first years) thought I was bigger than it and could cure it with diet... yeah, cure an autoimmune disease with food... it didn't happen obviously. 

I looked into the GAPS diet, it seemed fantastic! The reviews are great, so I went out one week and spent over $250 on food from the list.

I thought eating healthy would help so I put off seeing my doctor. Since moving back to South Australia I was without my GI and really had nobody to go to. My old GI started working somewhere else so I put it off... Hoping, praying to the universe that my gut would heal.

By May, I was very sick. My fiancé had enough of seeing me suffer and was worried about me so he took me to the hospital where I found out I was really, really sick...
My Crohn's was diagnosed in 2009, after 2 years of mild flaring. I had my daughter and then flared up badly, my liver was affected and I developed severe inflammation in my gallbladder and gallstones. I had surgery at 5 weeks PP and honestly don't remember much more. I started getting sicker, and sicker, scared out of my mind I had cancer because I was bleeding... So I went to the doctor.

I was put on 6MP - an immune suppressant drug that supresses bone marrow production. I never got to the point where I was ok, my inflammation markers only got as low as 8. But it was apparently ok with my doctor.. after all, he wasn't the one suffering....

I had my second, a son, I was monitored my entire pregnancy, every few weeks we would check all my bloods. I was fine, pregnancy is good to me...

After I had my son, I was better off than I was after my first. Crohn's tends to flare up about 6 weeks after birth because the immune system is no longer supressed for the pregnancy. I continued my care until 10 months PP when we made the decision to move interstate.

I was at the point in my life where I got used to a bit of pain, and the other symptoms such as vomiting and diarrhoea. I didn't eat takeaway food which helped... fatty foods are a trigger. We decided, while I was healthier than I had been in years, to have another baby. Baby R.

I was almost perfect during my pregnancy, I avoided my triggers and things were going well. I gave birth to a healthy 8lb boy after a easy but emotionally 'difficult' unassisted birth (I will elaborate on this next entry, I do not regret freebirthing and would do it again without a second thought)

We moved when R was 5 weeks, back to SA.  I was depressed, we lost our home in the flood due to the cyclone and I was beginning to flare. Life was only just beginning to test me.

So, to where I was in the beginning. I tried to 'cure' (not possible) my disease but I just kept getting worse. The pain was severe, I cried all day every day and considered suicide often. I was trapped in a body that was failing me. I could feel myself getting weaker. Weeks went by where I refused to see a doctor, I was extremely uneducated about Crohn's, my doctor never gave me any advice besides - Google.... yeah, thanks Doc...
I started getting dizzy spells, I couldn't eat or drink.. I was like a zombie.. just existing and breastfeeding... I went from 65kg to 55 without trying. I started vomiting and pooping blood.

My partner took me to hospital, he called ahead and told them what he was observing and the nurse said to come in immediately... and to call an ambulance if I was to drop... so I got scared...

We went in, less than 15 minutes in an extremely busy hospital I was in my own cubicle and they were taking blood, putting in IV's and doing all sorts of scans. And it all went crazy from there.

I mentioned being able to have R with me this stay, but it was not without a fight. I had administrators coming to me asking if there was any way R could go home, if we could consider feeding him expressed milk, if my OH could take him to me from 8am to 8pm so he could nurse... but he was only 5 months and had a cold which became bronchiolitis. He needed me. They tried transferring me to another hospital but none had any beds. The women's hospital would not take me because I was only breastfeeding... not pregnant..
They moved me from the main ER to another area in ER where I had privacy, the admin came back and we had the agreement that I would have R with me but I would be required to have a midwife with me all times at night and R would sleep in a port-a-cot. I could still breastfeed my baby so of course this was a great compromise.
Then, my treatment began... I was severely dehydrated and dangerously low on electrolytes. My potassium was extremely low, I could have had a heart attack if I left it any longer, it was a surprise it hadn't happened already... they told me that was why I was feeling so weak and my heart was feeling like it was pounding all the time. I had 8L of fluids go through me in 24 hours, IV steroids and heparin shots. BUT that's rather dismissive of what I went through.. I need to process it.. so here it is..

First IV, failed, second... failed.. 3 failed.... I had 18 failed attempts before I was hydrated enough for the line to stay in. I even had a surgeon tissue it (go through the vein into the tissue)... I was tired, in pain and I hate needles so this was traumatising... at 2 am after yet another failed, I was distressed. Even the midwife took R out (with permission) for a moment because I was that upset. She said she would give me time to calm down... she was lovely. I regret not remembering her name so I can thank her.
After the surgeon's IV failed, another doctor came in and attempted it. I had an hour with out being jabbed so I was in a better emotional place. I had a chance to sleep/ meditate. FINALLY the IV went in and stayed in... for a while.

Something like the 15th attempt

which failed...

R was my light in the darkness, had I been alone, I would have been far worse....

The next few days were a blur of poking, needles, Obs and lots of tears. I was not allowed to eat for the first day or so, not that I cared. I had no idea what my treatment would be, or how things actually were. I was told they would just monitor me. I felt like giving up.

I graduated to free-fluids and then as the steroids started to do their magic, I progressed onto low residue and had Ensure help me gain weight and to fill in the nutritional gaps... R slept in bed with me and nursed whenever. His cold became bronchiolitis so I had to transfer or send him home... I couldn't deny him the breast so I chose to transfer, luckily this time there was a bed.
On my last day before transferring to a different hospital things turned sour.

I had a midwife turn against me, probably because I snapped at her for waking R at 9:30 at night. We didn't click, unlike the others. She went behind my back and started telling everyone I needed to give my bub formula, he was STARVING apparently.. however, little did she know it was only earlier that day I had a NICU midwife insist he was fine and I was giving him enough milk.
I lost all my support though, I was alone and a midwife was insisting he was starving, the nurses listened to her, so I gave in... I told them ok, I will wean...

I called my mum immediately, she is an experienced formula feeder, I asked her to get the bottles and formula for me, I trusted her judgement. Before I was off the phone a nurse had brought me formula and bottles... I'm certain it was there waiting while the nurses coerced me into giving up. They even asked S to convince me to wean but he told them no way...

I had the social worker visit, she told me she understood what I was feeling - she breastfed her first and had to use formula with her second. I felt so alone, nobody actually even bothered to find out why I was upset, they just assumed I look down on bottle feeding and felt like a bad mum, rather than acknowledging that something I worked extremely hard to succeed at was being ripped out from under me and I was so sure it wasn't truly necessary. I just cried and let her tell me her story... I don't think she told me because I needed to hear it but because she needed to tell it.

My mum arrived and I asked her to show me what to do. R refused the bottle, we tried all her tricks but he was far from interested. My mum then said to me 'if he was as hungry a they're making out, he would have taken it'... I didn't try again, but having the stuff there shut the midwife and the nurses up fortunately.
There was a screw up with the transfer so my mum ended up transferring us in he own car, me in a gown and jelco still in. She is an ambulance officer, otherwise it would have taken longer, R and I would have been separated...I couldn't let that happen.
 At the new hospital I met the gastro team. I was told I'd get a letter for my follow up appointment when I was discharged, I was excited because I thought finally, I will get into remission. On steroids, I am 'normal'... just not emotionally (I go a bit crazy on them... nasty side effects but so worth it) When I got home, I felt like a whole new person! I had energy! I was home and I continued to breastfeed. I was feeling well....Until I weaned off the steroids...

Bam, back into the sickness, the pain and the constant bowel evacuation, I literally could not eat, I was on a liquid diet and even then was struggling.... I went back to hospital several times, only once staying for a few hours for rehydration. I was sent home with more steroids (I had less than a week off them...) and an antacid type pill that is supposed to help heal the gut as well... told to wait for my follow-up appointment and keep taking my meds... I was in so much pain at this point, I begged for pain relief and was sent home with oxycodone with strict instructions to take after nursing to limit the amount my bub got in my milk.
So that's what I did.. for a bit...

My birthday was a nightmare, I was incredibly sick. I had hoped for months to go out to dinner with my family and see a movie. Something so the day of my birth wasn't insignificant. Instead I was on so much medication that I was considering weaning... even though they were supposed to be fine for short term...I slept in the lounge most days, only so I could still interact with my kids... I slept a lot... cried a lot.. and the rest of the time writhing in pain.... the pain was starting to destroy me. I gave up.

After being brushed off at the hospital for a couple of weeks, and NOT receiving an appointment for my follow-up, I asked what was going on after my parents insisted.. I found out they had only JUST got the referral and were yet to make me an appointment.. I could not wait anymore so I saw my GP and begged him for help. He was disgusted with my treatment (or lack of) to say the least so he referred me to a gastroenterologist in the city. He even called the office to push the appointment sooner, telling me it is likely I will need surgery as I was showing signs of partial obstructions. I did not want surgery but at that point, it was the light I needed. I had a little hope again.

I had the consult with my new GI and fell in love with him, I hadn't met such a caring doctor in a while (besides my GP). He took me on straight away and went into so much more detail about Crohn's, treatment and so on. I needed a colonoscopy and endoscopy to see what was going on (something that didn't actually happen in the hospital). I finally understood....AND he told me I had not reached the end of the line when I came to medication... which is what I was told at the second hospital.. they told me they won't even try infliximab because it won't work, my disease was only in my small bowel, infliximab won't work unless it's in the colon...
I cried, I was so relieved.. somebody was going to help me! I had a wedding coming up and focused on that to get me through until I had the colonoscopy/endoscopy...

Bride's maid! :)

I had a wedding on the 6th of Oct, I was a bridesmaid for my best friend. I was very sick, at this point I had lost 15 kilos and was still dropping 2 kg a week, but did my best to hide it.


On the way home, I started to feel even more ill. I put it down to the wine which I promptly threw up when I got home... the vomiting didn't stop, so I knew it was not the wine... I threw up blood... I knew something was wrong.. S freaked out and nearly took me to hospital then and there. I said no, give me another day, I am too tired...

On the 8th I was taken back. S called the hospital where my doctor works at (which is neither of the hospitals I had been in before) and they told me to go in immediately...I freaked out because the last time it was traumatising....
I had lost an incredible amount of weight at this point, I'm surprised I actually was able to breastfeed still! I was not making enough.. so I made the decision to give him formula if I was admitted.. I wasn't going to fight to have him with me... I had given up, I needed to rest...

In ER, again, I was taken in extremely fast... less than 5 minutes, and this was an extremely busy day (the nurses told me they usually get around 30, that day they had 50)... I was blown away how quickly I was seen...but I was dead on my feet and probably looked like I was going to drop.. I felt like it...

The doctor tried to take blood but I was so dehydrated he couldn't... I couldn't understand how I kept getting so dehydrated when my flare was apparently in just my small bowel - the terminal ileum. I had 2L put through before he could take blood, the pain relief I had been taking was no longer working (a month on it reduced the effectiveness.. it's a scary drug, all to easy to get addicted... I hated being on it) so they doubled the dose. I took 2 tablets....I was really out of it from here on, but I still remember.

One of the GI doctors from the first hospital happened to be there, one of my favourites, and he asked how things were. He asked about my son, if I was still breastfeeding and if I was going to want him with me... I said no, we were going to keep him at home and give formula... I knew if I had him with me I would not recover, because I would be too focused on him and not myself.. and it would make any treatment I needed tricky... I had little doubt I could relactate once I was well again.
I was moved to another ward - where you stay short term, if you need longer treatment you move to another ward. I slept, and went through all the same things again.

The next morning a nurse surprised me by telling me I had a colonoscopy at 10am, they couldn't find an anaesthetist so I'd have to be awake but sedated. I spent that morning crying in the shower and hiding behind my curtains around my bed. Hoping I could just close my eyes and drift away into nothingness....My nurse asked if I was ok and I told her I was absolutely terrified, I was still traumatised from the last one... The only other colonoscopy I had was for diagnosis, I also had an endoscopy, and I was awake then too.. I had a panic attack. I felt like I was choking on the scope during the endoscopy and the colonoscopy was painful and humiliating. They sedated me 3 times before I relaxed....

It's one of the more traumatic events in my life and I find it difficult to talk/write about..... I still have PTSD from it ... one day I might be able to break free and speak openly without reliving it but not today....

10am came, the orderlies came and took me. As they wheeled me in the room the doctor introduced the anaesthetist, telling me they found one and that I didn't have to deal with it awake. I cried tears of relief...  I watched the drug go into my jelco, within seconds I was asleep. I woke up in recovery, where I don't remember anything significant. I may have been told what they found but I don't remember.
My GI flew from a conference interstate and we had a talk about my treatment plan. I remember crying when he told me my disease had spread to my large bowel, the inflammation in my small bowel was severe, in my colon it was moderate. We knew why it was so difficult for me to stay hydrated and why the pain I was experiencing was extreme. My guts were literally bleeding, ulcerated and being ripped to shreds. The inflammation was so bad in my Ileum that whatever I did eat was getting obstructed and had to push through. That was why even on oxycodone I was nearly passing out from the pain...
I didn't feel like an inconvenience at this point, I really was sick and it wasn't just me thinking it.

They were really quick to act, they started the paperwork necessary for me to have Medicare (Australia's free healthcare) cover the Infliximab. I was a special circumstance so I was approved for treatment straight away.

I had a bad day when my mum visited, I was frustrated with my hair - half combed out dreads at the time. I couldn't manage it, I couldn't finish combing them out so I ended up with a massive mess. My mum decided to pay for a haircut, afraid I'd regret cutting my hair off but knowing it was needed. She thought I was going to cry, and for a moment I almost did but I was a bit out of it and I don't think I truly realised what had happened until I got home and had a shower in my own home... I didn't feel like me, but I felt freed of the trauma... I've since fallen in love with short hair, in fact, I went even shorter 2 weeks ago :)

I was discharged a few days later, appointments already made for follow up and the infusions which I will need every 8 weeks for the rest of my life.
December came, I met with my GI and we had some great news. My inflammation markers went from 52 to undetectable, an absolute first. I finally could say I was in remission!!! It took 7 years, 4 of which were bad, the last 6 months had been a nightmare, to FINALLY find something that worked.

While now I may be fine most days, some aren't too great. I'm never going to be free of this disease, or truly free of the symptoms. If anything it has taught me patience, it has taught me to never loose hope even if the whole universe is black, mostly, it taught me just how precious life is.

Baby R's freebirth

Baby R was born at 6:21am on Valentines Day (14th Feb) at home, at 40 weeks and 3 days gestation.

 

Here is his birth story <3

My 'due' date, came and went. I was thrilled though, I found it to be the most awesome thing to be able to say, 'Oh my due date was yesterday' haha the shock on people's faces amused me ceaselessly. My mother in law flew up on my due date, I paced around the airport while we waited smiling to myself because nobody else knew I was 40 weeks that day. From the day I worked out my due date, I kept saying how awesome it would be if I had him on Valentines Day, just 3 days after my due date. I didn't think it would actually happen since my previous pregnancies were 37+5 and 39+0, I kept hoping, just as I kept hoping I would get to 40 weeks.

I was feeling huge by 40+1, I had a sudden appearance of stretchmarks on my belly the week before which reminded me of whiskers, my belly button was in the middle like a nose of a kitty :P I felt womanly, beautiful and a bit nervous. R had been posterior the entire time I had been able to palpate his position. This did make me nervous, apparently posterior labours are longer - particularly pushing, more uncomfortable and tearing is much more likely, but I tried not to look too much into it.

I did tear with J's birth, significantly enough that a few millimetres saved me from a 3rd degree tear. Although recovery was pretty easy, my midwife was able to repair the tear so well that it didn't feel like anything had happened after a few weeks but I still didn't want to tear again, at least not as severely. I thought back on J's and D's births a lot, about what I would change, what I thought worked and what I thought would work again. I did know better than to make a plan in my head about how exactly things would go, but I am glad I prepared myself for another quick labour.

On the 12th, I got the shakes randomly. I had something to eat and drink and it didn't stop so I checked my blood pressure but it was fine, getting curious as to whether it was a possible sign of impending labour I googled it, sure enough some things said 12-48 hours after some mums got the shakes, they went into labour. I figured it could be hormonal and went on with my day as usual, hoping I'd be having my baby soon.

On the 13th, we went out shopping - S, J, D, mum-in-law and myself. I walked around and we bought a couple more outfits for R to wear, I had worried since it was still warm in QLD that some of the clothes we had aside for him would be too warm to wear (we kept a lot of J's baby clothes, but he was born in SA when and where it is much colder). I was getting braxton hicks fairly often, I would wiggle my hips and belly dance in the hopes I would get R to turn - he was still posterior. When we got home I had a nap, I hardly slept the night before and I was feeling a bit antsy.

On the 14th, around 2 am J woke up, still breastfed (mainly to go to sleep because by that time I had only colostrum) so I nursed him back to sleep, and as usual I started getting some braxton hicks contractions. I had been getting strong braxton hicks contractions since mid-38 weeks most often when nursing so I thought nothing of it. They were sporadic, no pattern and they didn't hurt at all. For me, my belly would grow tight and I'd feel a little breathless and then it would pass. Once J was asleep, he stayed in my bed with me, between S and I. After a while S got up and went to J's bed to get comfortable, as he had done so often the last couple of weeks (I took up enough room as it was let alone adding a toddler).

I don't remember still having braxton hicks at this point, I may have, I may not have. I tried to go back to sleep, using all the pillows on the bed to make myself a nest to get comfortable. I vaguely remember starting to notice the tightenings a while later. I was really uncomfortable and when the contractions didn't stop like they usually did I started to feel a little annoyed. I kept trying to sleep though.The contractions were still painless, but my pubic bone would start to ache, I checked the time, it was 2:22am.

I was still trying to see if I could sleep but ended up getting a drink and going to the loo in the hopes that they would stop. Still convinced I was just having BHC. Back in bed, lying on my side they started to feel stronger, the ache was more noticeable and impossible to stay still through. I gave up on sleeping, grateful I had a nap earlier and had a shower because usually a warm shower makes me sleepy and relaxed. The contractions slowed while I let the warm water run over my belly so I got out and attempted to sleep again, after just a couple of contractions I gave up, I started to feel almost a sting at the peak of the contraction.I went to the loo again, and had a thought to start timing these contractions. They weren't completely painless now, I thought something was happening but it was nothing like either of my previous labours. I decided to download an app, I figured if it was It, then I'd be able to time my contractions, if not; I'd just feel a little silly getting my hopes up and get on with my day as usual.

I timed a few, had a shower and had a few more before I jumped out and timed another one or 2. They were only 30 seconds long but 1 and a half minutes apart, they didn't seem long enough to be real labour but I did notice they were actually painful now, especially out of the water. I got back in the shower and the intensity started to peak, feeling a little alone and wanting S I got out and woke him up, saying "I'm getting pains and I can't sleep through them". I kneeled on the bed next to him and said he might want to get up soon, I hesitated telling him I felt lonely but did so anyway. S, knowing me better than myself sometimes, realised I was in labour, he watched me have a contraction and immediately got up. It was 4am.

Up until this point I remained unconvinced it was real labour, I thought false labour at the least because it felt so different. I breathed through every contraction, not making a sound and not feeling the need to.
I got back in the shower, and talked to S and breathed through contractions, they were getting painful now. It demanded all my focus, and I instinctively got on all fours and let the water fall over my back. I checked my cervix a few times since I first jumped in the shower that morning, I had been unable to feel it until now where I guessed I was at least 5 with a bulging bag of waters. The more labour progressed, I could feel my cervix melting away, it's quite cool :) It was only when I could feel the bag of water that I was convinced it was labour.

I had some towels at the edge of the shower and in between contractions I started to feel sleepy so I literally napped. I rested my head on the towels, still on my hands and knees and closed my eyes. Oxytocin had kicked in for sure.

I started making small sounds, in the back of my mind I coached myself 'low sounds, low sounds' the higher pitched the sounds are the more painful it is, low sounds (like the 'om' when people meditate) help you relax so it actually hurts less... I kept my mouth open, because open mouth = open cervix...well something like that, I highly recommend Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth. J and D woke so S brought them into the bathroom where we chilled out and chatted inbetween contractions, they were the same length and had the same break between them but the intensity picked up. It wasn't long before I got loud.

J didn't like it when I had a contraction, these ones were really hurting and he got scared. In between the contractions I cuddled him and gave him a kiss to reassure him I'm fine, I kept telling them I was having the baby, and D thought it was the coolest thing ever. She kept excitedly dancing around :)
I knew I would not be able to have J and D with me much longer, labour was picking up so S called his mum.

My mother in law took 5 minutes to get to us (she was staying with a friend), later she told us she had just woken and just 'knew' something was up and then she got the call. This was a little after 5 I think.
I think I had just a couple contractions, these were not as strong, I was thinking about the kids and needed to be alone so labour stalled a little. As soon as my MIL got there and the kids were out of the room and entertained labour intensified.

I kept holding S's hands during contractions, I really needed his touch. As soon as a contraction built up, I grabbed for his hands and held tight and 'ommmm'ed' my way through the contraction.
I stopped thinking, I don't remember what was going through my head, I was in another world now.

 

I find it funy that each labour I have a word I say during contractions. With my first 2, I swore, sh*t for D and f*ck for J, with R, I just said 'ow' and 'ah'. I won't lie, this fricking hurt! I surrendered, I let each contraction consume me, I would focus on keeping my mouth relaxed as I 'oooowwwwwwww'ed' and 'aaaahhhhh'ed'. I kept expecting back pain, he was still posterior and I only ever hear of the dreaded back labour that happens often with a posterior baby. I didn't have any, all the pains were focused where my pubic bone is, it felt like a lot of pressure with a sting. With J and D's labours, it was a burning sting that spread between my hip bones, I never felt pressure until I pushed.

I got a little pushy really soon after my mother in law got there, I checked myself and I was nearly complete but R's head was still high up. The next contraction was definitely a pushy contraction, I couldn't fight it so I didn't. I was on my hands and knees still, rocking my hips side to side and pushing with the urge.

I felt like I was pushing forever, I pushed a few times and checked myself (something that I really didn't think about, I just did it) and during each push I could feel his head moulding and moving ever so slightly down, bag of waters still intact. I was secretly hoping I would give birth to him in the caul (still in his bag of waters) because it's considered good luck.

S was messing around with the camera a few times since I started feeling pushy, I never really noticed but when I was pushing hard the camera batteries went flat. I still needed to hold onto him so he had to be really quick and rushed back the moment a contraction started. He did get the new batteries in and came back to me. Then it went flat again so we left it for a little bit.

I was getting tired, after about 15-20 minutes of full-on pushes, 3 pushes per contraction and contractions a minute apart lasting what felt like forever. Each push, I would feel him move a tiny bit. I started to feel stuck. I stood up a few times and felt like I couldn't go on. I felt like R just wasn't moving down, like he was stuck. I was getting frustrated. I complained to S, and tried to walk away. I said I give up, I am not doing this anymore, I can't do this anymore. He told me I could do it, I was doing it and that soon I would have a little baby to cuddle, to breastfeed and to love, he reminded me that I had been waiting for this and it would be so worth it. I knew he was right, he gave me some excitement back.

I walked out of the shower and paced around, then a contraction started and I quickly got back into the shower, this time I was standing while pushing, and it felt better but I fell to my knees again after it was over.

The contractions were intense now, I would shake and a couple of times cried a little. I felt like I was sitting in the water at the beach being hit by waves. I tried to go with them, still trying to relax as much as possible. This labour was less painful than J's, purely because didn't feel my hips seperating.
I felt like I should stand while I pushed, when I regained focus I realised I felt I needed to be off all fours which the reason he was hardly moving (if at all, it was likely all I was feeling was his head moulding). It was a little awkward trying to figure out what worked, I held onto S for physical support this time and after only a few contractions my water broke.

I checked myself again and felt his head, no longer with the bag of water in the way, and I could feel the little line on his head where the plates were squished together. I was ecstatic, I was touching my baby and I was the first to touch him. I laughed and cried much like I did when he was actually born. This was the most awesome moment I had ever experienced in labour, and this gave me strength.

I was now pushing with S holding me up, a supported squat I believe it is called. I think a birthing chair would have been ideal but this worked great. Every push did something, I could feel R moving down. In between contractions, I was resting and leaning against the wall when I felt R's little foot poke out the front/left. I am 99% sure he was ROP, slowly turning to come out. Feeling his foot made me giggle, and slightly sad that I'd probably never feel it again.

I pushed a little while longer, this time I felt like things were actually moving and it wasn't long at all before I dropped to my knees and instead of being really loud while I pushed, I grunted a little. R had dropped into the birth canal and was almost crowning. I was at the point where I knew the birth would be very, very soon. I was at peace and hardly focused on anything around me, I could do it on my own. I don't even remember what S was doing. Watching the video later, I can see I was entirely focused on pushing just as I needed to, unlike J's birth where I just gave it my all regardless if I needed to (ending up in that tear...) S did remind me to go slow, as I had asked him to in case I pushed too hard. I didn't need him to though, I told him I'm just doing what my body tells me to.
R began to crown, I felt the warm stretching feeling as he did, not what I would call 'the ring of fire' which I had with the other two. I cupped my hand over his head, this was a very slow, very controlled stage, I was scared out of my mind that I would tear, if I took my hand away for just a second to readjust my position or wipe water out of my face I would immediately cup my hand over his head again. I kept waiting to feel myself tear but never did.

I kneeled now, and all of a sudden I gave a push and he came out really fast. I don't remember what way he was facing but his body was facing up, he had a nuchal cord so I just pulled it over his head and then turned him to the side where he coughed out fluid and gave a loud cry. With the way the cord was around his neck it confirmed a dream I had the day before. I had dreamed that he would come out with a nuchal cord and because the placenta was anterior and to the left, he was nice and comfy ROP, only turning as he came out.

I checked his cord, it was a beautiful blue colour, pumping his blood back to him. He was covered in a bit of vernix and he was so chubby! I looked at him all over, from his crumpled little ears to his little heels. He was entirely perfect and was beautiful and pink.

I cried, I said hello, I vaguely remember seeing the kids at the door so I showed them and said I 'look, it's your baby brother' I just kneeled there and enjoyed the peace, feeling estatic. I was in no rush to do anything, it was perfect.
S took a couple of pictures on my mobile, just as I had leaned back to get comfortable. We saw a small gush of blood, we watched it and I checked the cord which was still thick and full of blood, I didn't worry myself yet, I remembered the same thing happening after J.
I got S to get a blanket, just in case R got cold and snuggled him close, skin to skin. S went to get the couch ready for me because I wasn't comfortable and wanted to sit, this was about 7am now. I got up and took a picture of R in my arms. I adore this photo.

I had no urge to push the placenta out yet, I wasn't getting contractions so I just waited, paid close attention to how I was feeling. I felt weak but not dizzy, I was hardly losing any blood so I walked to the couch and with help, sat down.
I called my mum and told her he was born, announcing his name - we had kept it to ourselves and wanted to announce it when he was born. I told her that he was born at 6:21am. My mum was thrilled but had no idea we had had a planned unassisted birth, we felt it was best not to tell them because they are ambulance officers and I felt it would cause them unnecessary stress knowing. She asked about his weight and because we hadn't weighed or measured him I told her we were at home and hadn't done it, she asked about my midwife and I said we didn't have one. She just assumed it went fast just like J's birth and encouraged me to head to the hospital soon. I think she was a bit surprised how relaxed I was, especially considering I still hadn't birthed the placenta haha

For me, it felt like the most normal thing in the world, it felt weird to be considering a trip to the hospital. I saw a doctor once during my pregnancy, my GP, only to get a referral for an ultrasound, the rest I took care of. I was not having blood tests or the screening they generally do at antenatal visits. Anything I was going to consent to, I could do myself. So I did, I liked having complete responsibility over my body and my baby, I never once worried or stressed about being told to do something due to someone else's fears. If I ever have another baby, I would do it my way again.
I did say to my mum that we were extremely prepared in the event of an 'accidental' unassisted birth but I think she still worried. I regret calling her so soon, because the trip to hospital weighed heavily on my mind and I really didn't want to think about it just yet.

I was uncomfortable after a little while, I had a cup of tea, took some arnica and snuggled with R, enjoying every moment but I wanted to stand, I was sure the placenta would be coming soon, I started to get some pains.
I got to the bathroom and tried to see if the placenta was ready, I pushed a little but nothing happened so I kneeled/sat on the floor. I swear it was only a couple of minutes before I had the urge to push again so I called S over and demanded he bring the bowl. He wasn't quick enough, so he had to pick the placenta up off the floor, going 'eeww' lol I admit, it was a bit ikky.

I passed R to S and for the first time I had my arms free and empty belly. I wanted a shower and I wanted to watch the bleeding. I stood up and watched the blood come out, it was a bit scary, I'd never experienced a physiological 3rd stage on my own, let alone truly experienced it. I had my midwife help me with J, with D I did nothing as it was heavily managed. I waited, I watched the blood fall and paid close attention to how I felt, chatting to S as well. I was never left alone, when the bleeding slowed dramatically which convinced me I was NOT about to haemmorage. I had my shepherd's purse tea waiting, kettle boiled, ready to be made if needed. I felt pretty good so I went to have my shower. It felt strange because not long before, I was giving birth in that shower.

I was all cleaned up and went to lie in bed with R, who was still attatched to the cord, we wanted to delay cord clamping as long as possible. I snuggled with him and tried to nurse him, he wasn't overly interested but nursed for a little while.
I really enjoyed this time, it was the first time things were relaxed and I never got to really enjoy this time with the others. All I ever wanted was to relax with my baby, in MY bed and take our time with unecessary things like cutting the cord. My dad called, I told him the good news, he asked me about the placenta, bleeding, how R was and such (mum had told him what I said earlier) he seemed more relaxed about it than mum, maybe because I sounded fine and could easily answer his questions.

A while later, nearly 3 hours since the birth we tied a cord I had made (it was soaked in boiling water) around his cord and S cut it. A little bit of blood fell, making me wish we had waited but the placenta and cord were very cold also the cord was white and limp.

I dressed R, we started to get ready to go to the hospital, wanting it to be over and done with. I checked the placenta and it was all there, so I just bagged it and chucked it in the freezer. I plan to encapsulate it (to this day, 8 weeks later I still haven't done it because we had no oven until a few days ago...I'll be doing it next week once I get the capsules lol)
When we got to the hospital, we just walked through the doors and they all perked up at their desks. I said 'I just had a baby, can someone check us over?' They didn't know what to think lol A midwife came over to me and noticed how new R was, she had thought I just got out of Base Hospital (where the babies are born) until I said, no, I had him just a few hours ago. The surprise on her face was hilarious.

I'll spare the details, it was a tedious 4 hours but everyone was surprised how calm I was, surprised that we didn't rush in straight away, that I didn't call the ambulance and even more so, that we cut the cord and I had already showered :P
I didn't tear enough to need stitches (I never felt any tear afterwards either so it must have been really small), R was fine (but I knew that) he was measured and weighed and there was a lot of paperwork.... oh so much paperwork. Initially they wanted R and I to stay 48 hours but I refused, I knew there was no reason to and was desperate to go back home. I said I would only stay 4, and it was not up for discussion. They gave me some food and R chilled out/slept on the neonatal bed (never seen one before lol I don't know what it is called but it had an inbuilt heart monitor and O2) next to me, they put the heater on so he wouldn't get cold while I ate and rested a bit. I swear most of the staff that came in 'just to grab one thing' used that as an excuse to come see R, one nurse told me we were 'the talk of the hospital' lol babies weren't born there, they really only saw the emergencies, the nurse told me it was nice to see the other side of things.

S had to get the placenta because they didn't believe me when I said I had checked it and it was intact.
When R was weighed, I couldn't believe them, 3650g which is 8lbs! He was 50cm long, which is longer than D and J who were only 48cm. R was my biggest baby yet :)

The male midwife (whom was really cool, he showed genuine interest when we talked about placenta encapsulation) asked us about the way he was born, curious about his position because he had a funny shaped head - he said it looked like he was posterior (the moulding was on the top, slightly to the right, the back of his head was rounded), I couldn't remember and felt like it didn't really matter so I said he came out normally and left it at that.

We went back home, and had our first night as a family of 5. I did have a nap and S took the kids out to get us some tea, he didn't feel like cooking, but I didn't sleep much, I was too in awe of R :P

I will never regret having an unassisted pregnancy and birth. I felt more in tune with my body and being entirely responsible was comforting. I never answered to anyone, I was never pressured into anything. It felt natural. I did miss having appointments with a midwife but it drove me to research more, anything I was uncertain about I looked up. I learnt so much about myself and about birth. I learned to trust birth even more than I had before. Above all else though, I learnt to trust my instincts as a mother. It's incredible how birth can change your life... no matter how many times you do it ;)

39 weeks 2 days

I've been MIA for the last couple of weeks due to the flooding here in Queensland. We are fine where we are, we got out just in time.

So here I am, 39 weeks and 2 days pregnant. This is now officially the longest I've been pregnant! I had my DD at 37 weeks 5 days and my DS at 39 weeks exactly so we're patiently waiting for labour to start any moment :) We are so very excited to meet out baby boy, the little one who will complete our family.
I have absolutely everything prepared now, just waiting on baby :)
Today I got my fiance to take a pic of my belly, strangely I look so much smaller here ;) Black isn't all that flattering in my opinion, but it is all that 'fits' currently. I've outgrown all my maternity clothes!! We're guessing this little one will be a bit bigger than his big brother, who was 7lbs 11oz, we just arent sure just how much ;) Only time will tell...

 

I am getting a LOT of braxton hicks contractions, especially when I nurse my son but it really doesn't FEEL like it has been long enough (the pregnancy) yet. Although it has been the toughest pregnancy, it has been so, so worth it. I have a tonne more stretchmarks (my mama stripes! :)) so that my belly looks kind of purple but I'm not bothered at all, I was excited when I noticed them getting darker in the 38th week.
Bub is still posterior, he moves around a lot so I am not worried, he seems to have plenty of room ;)
I don't have the most reliable internet currently so this is going to be short. The next update will most likely be the birth announcement and story.
I will be able to update my facebook page easier, so if you are following, keep an eye out!!

Peace, Love & Light.

35 weeks 5 days

It's official, I have just one month left until my due date. I'm starting to get nervous which is an absolute first for me, I think it has a lot to do with the fact that this is my first planned freebirth and I'm all too aware of the complications that could arise, even though I also know the likelihood of them actually happening are minimal.

I worry about severe tearing, not that I've had severe tearing with either of my kids, I was lucky I only had a 2nd degree tear with my second, a precipitous birth. I'm not entirely sure why it plays on my mind, I think mostly it's because bub is staying posterior most of the time and I know that increases the risk of tearing. I am having a waterbirth (assuming there's time and I feel like being in the water at the time) so tearing badly is not really that likely. I really want to avoid the hospital, it's not an environment I want to bring my newborn into if I can help it.

I worry about excessive bleeding, with precispitous births there's a higher chance of post partum haemorrhage, I barely bled after DS's birth which was a precipitous birth but I guess I'm going to be wondering if it will happen this time just becuse I know know it can happen. I have Shepherd's Purse tea on hand which will be made up and put in the fridge, if I begin to bleed a bit much there's no fussing around, it's already there ready to drink, I will also of course consume some placenta... as much as taking it raw really gives me the heebee jeebees. I do wonder if the increased risk includes induced birth or not, I'm guessing truly natural precipitous births don't happen often enough to get enough data to say for sure, including a physiological 3rd stage and baby being placed on the mother immediately.

I have dreams where he doesn't breathe like he should and I see myself sucking out the fluid and helping him breathe, he always pinks up and cries heartily but it scares me to dream it. I think my subconscious is reminding me that I do know what to do in certain situations, that I need not worry. I often dream he has a nuchal cord and I have to slip it over his head, always with ease. Other times he is born in the caul. Most often though, I dream his birth is very, very quick, I'll be out somewhere and suddenly labour starts and then all of a sudden I'm pushing with a whole lot of people around me.

I guess what I fear most, is having my privacy taken away from me.

We have a few things to prepare for before I feel comfortable giving birth, at the moment we're waiting for the go ahead to move. Where we are now is sending us broke and it is putting me under a lot of stress. Last time we moved when I was pregnant it was extremely stressful, I had hoped to avoid that but nope.. not going to happen it seems. I fear that stress is going to send me into labour and not the completion of my unborn son's lung development.
I have to still get something to weigh him with and I have to find something to tie off the cord with. I have to get the capsules for my encapsulated placenta but we have everything else.

Symptom-wise for this week, he's been moving a lot and hiccuping several times a day which is soooo cute. I'm still feeling rather tired and insomnia has kicked in big time. My hips are hurting a fair bit now, when I get out of bed I hear them crunch. Breastfeeding has become really uncomfortable, getting into a position that works is harder these days and my breasts have become sensitive again. It's on and off so I hope it goes away again. I'm so glad I stuck with it though, there have been times where only boobie is going to help him sleep or calm down. Also, there are some really sweet moments where I melt into a puddle of mum-goo, I wish I had this with my DD...Or that I remember them but because I had severe PND and PTSD I don't remember all that much of my daughter's first 2 years, and it breaks my heart.

I'm hungry a lot of the time, I eat to the point I feel like I'm going to explode even though it's not a huge amount of food and unfortunately due to pregnancy it takes longer to digest that food so I have to wait, making me ravenous by the time I feel comfortable to stuff my face again. I'm finding it difficult to drink enough water, I don't know how to explain it but it really takes some effort to drink what is needed. I'm never thirsty, which makes it more difficult to work out how much I need, I have always drank to thirst but it seems that's not enough because I don't pee enough and it's the wrong colour when I do...

I'm currently reading Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, I seriously love that woman! The more things I read where birth is spoken of as a normal thing, the less anxiety I have, when I make the mistake of watching a youtube video of a highly medicalised birth.. I stress just a bit, because that's how birth is seen for the rest of the population.. lying on a bed with monitors strapped to them , IV in the arm usually with Pit flowing, legs in stirrups while a doctor or nurse counts to ten as they purple push...it's seen as totally normal, but it's not.. it's actually really frightening to someone like me who has only ever experienced a normal physiological birth and the only time I was on the bed during my DD's birth was when my waters were broken and I discovered I was 9cm with a lip and then when I pushed on my hands and knees where the only noises were of me grunting and my mum, midiwfe and partner telling me I'm doing a great job.
I do get all teary when mum and dad meet their baby, regardless of whether it is a cesarean or not, whether it was a medicalised birth or not. Because those moments are always beautiful.

I can't wait to meet my son, the final addition to our family. I'm excited for the birth even though I feel some anxiety. I know it will hurt, but it is so, so worth it.

Until next time,
Peace, Love and Light, and thank you for following my journey :)

34 weeks 4 days

So here we are, about 6 weeks left assuming like my last 2 pregnancies, baby is ready before his due date. I know I say this all the time but gosh it has gone so fast!
So recent symptoms...
Sleep has become near impossible to achieve, when I lie on my side bub kicks and stretches and it is quite painful. His little limbs go everywhere like I've got a little octopus in there. My partner and I have joked about the ultrasound being wrong and that there's 2 in there but I'm definitely not big enough for twins ;) As much as I love being able to feel him move so much more than I remember with my other 2, it is getting more painful the bigger he gets and I want him to rotate from posterior to anterior. So I've been crawling around the house and rocking on my gym ball, my partner thinks it is hilarious of course, me big and pregnant crawling around after the kids.

I'm waddling big time, I swear I give new meaning to waddling right now. I can feel my entire body rock left to right and there's not a thing I can do to stop it, I can't help but laugh at myself.
I'm feeling the dreaded 3rd trimester exhaustion, I want to sleep ALL THE TIME, but obviously I can't with 2 little ones running around.

My belly is stretching but no sign of new stretch marks yet, if my last 2 pregnancies are anything to go by I shall be seeing them pop up in the next 2 weeks, I'm not bothered by stretch marks in the slightest, I like having new ones each time, a mark on my body to remember the pregnancy. I have a tattoo (and plan more when I'm done breastfeeding) but I admit, there's nothing more beautiful to me than one nature gives me. My skin is looking a little red and under my belly button I have a strip where it's lighter than the rest, not unlike the linea nigra, just white instead, it's something I've never come across before. My skin itches like crazy after I've eaten, and I always seem to eat too much for the tiny space left for my stomach to expand. My ribs on my right side are spreading out more than the left, it's incredibly painful.

I've started to feel nauseated and have thrown up a couple of times in the last 2 days, I hope it doesn't continue. I've noticed it is much worse when I haven't had enough sleep, or a good enough sleep. DS is nursing still but once he's nursed to sleep he generally stays asleep until about 5am when my partner gets up and plays with him so I get to stay in bed and sleep (isn't he such a sweetheart :))
We have been discussing what is going to happen when bub gets here, I've pretty much told my DF that I will not be refusing to nurse DS. He was never totally ok with DS nursing past 2 (because unless it's happening it's hard to imagine, when DD weaned at 16 months I couldn't imagine nursing a 20 month old.. now I am and it's just as normal as it was to nurse a newborn), or tandem but has realised it's just out of our control if we don't want to resort to Cry-It-Out. I think he is still secretly hoping DS will wean but I know it won't be happening, he nurses to sleep most times and whenever he's hurt or upset.


We will be moving in the next week or so, so I'll finally be able to start nesting. I'm in love with the new place, there's a bath so I don't have to worry too much about needing a pool to labour and birth in. Also, it's not so close to any of the neighbours, we'll be on 1/2 an acre so I won't be worrying about the neighbours calling the cops thinking I'm being murdered or something horrible like that if I happen to roar my baby out this time.

I keep dreaming about the birth. Very strange dreams where my back is aching and all of a sudden I get the urge to push and pop, out comes baby. I can keep dreaming about a painless labour even though I know it's unlikely to happen. I catch myself thinking about what he will look like, whether he will cry or not (DS didn't cry, he just cooed and made those sweet little baby sounds newborns do), will he be an easy labour or will be be more difficult, will he be born in the caul or not, will my son and daughter be there or will they be asleep, will one be up and not the other, will labour begin at night or during the day... I try very hard not to focus on the negatives, like what if he needs help after being born, if I need help during labour, what if I need a c-section or something. I'm reading about complications constantly, reading out what I'm reading while my partner sits beside me and listens. We discuss what could happen, what we would do, what would need to happen if ____ was to happen. Necessary of course, we have a backup plan but I hope very much that we never need to resort to that.

My mother in law is coming up to visit, she's planning to come up a couple of days before my due date. I'm not entirely sure if I'll be asking her to attend the birth or not, assuming bub isn't born by then. She's fully aware we're planning to freebirth, she even knows I'm doing my own prenatal care, and you know what's cool about that?? She's totally fine with it!! She says she trusts us and trusts our baby will be born safely, whether or not it includes hospital transfer. My parents are ambulance officers so I have not and will not be telling them, I know they will only worry.

I am planning to record the birth, I may or may not edit to share on youtube but I want people to see physiological birth.

And that's all for now, DS is nursing to sleep but it's difficult to type and nurse a toddler while pregnant ;)